I blew up last night. Anger burst up and out of me before I knew what happened. Sure, there was a trigger. Something that might frustrate anyone, although I don’t get frustrated so much anymore. But it threw me into orbit and I didn’t see it coming. And I would have never guessed that fear was at the center of my inner storm. And more: unbelief.
Unfortunately, fear is not a stranger. I’ve had to overcome it on many levels over the years. I say “unfortunately,” but I don’t think any of us get through life without being touched by its smoke and mirrors. To some degree, we have all felt the hot breath of fear in our face. But sometimes, it hides behind other emotions…
So I blew up, stormed around, shouted, and finally went upstairs to my prayer room, closing the door behind me. As I sank into my Father’s chair, He spoke before I had a chance. “You don’t believe,” He gently whispered. I waited for more. “You’re afraid it’s going to fall apart again. You don’t believe Me, that it’s going to be different this time.”
I took a deep breath as a tear slid down my face. “You’re right… I’m afraid,” I whispered back. “How do I believe?”
And as only the words of God can slice between bone and marrow, soul and spirit, He then gave me an answer only He could give: “I believe,” He said. “Step into My belief.”
Making Fear Acceptable
As parents, we often label our fear as being cautious, responsible, discerning, wise, and even loving. We make excuses for its influence and pretend it’s normal — even right — to embrace our resulting thoughts and actions.
- I wouldn’t be a good or loving parent if I didn’t worry about my kids…
- Anyone can see this is a disaster waiting to happen…
- If I don’t worry about this, who will…?
- We need to be realistic…
But when you cater to fear, it pulls up a chair and moves in. It doesn’t go away when the kids grow up. It doesn’t move out just because you change jobs or move out of state. Fear never brings peace. It never brings joy. It only stirs the pot and then hides until another opportune moment to steal hope and destroy destinies.We make excuses for #fear and pretend it's normal. #emptynest #empowerednester Click To Tweet
A Long Road
What is your long road? How has disappointment weighed you down? What does fear whisper, when you least expect?
- Is it something about the kids?
- Or your marriage?
- Maybe about a long, lost dream?
- Or about yourself?
- Or the future?
The thing is, if you never face-off with your fear and overcome it’s voice, it will always have the power to cripple and manipulate you. Just when you think things are going well, fear will tap on your shoulder with an ominous “What if…?” It will influence your decisions and cause you — like me — to erupt at a seemingly small suggestion.
To overcome its influence, a few things are required:
When I went up into my prayer room and the Holy Spirit spoke to me, I could have ignored Him and walked away — still mad and hurt. But in being honest, in humbling myself, I helped shine the light on the real issue. It had little to do with frustration or anger, but everything to do with fear and unbelief. As soon as I agreed with the truth He’d revealed, I began walking out my freedom from fear.
Today, I’m choosing again: honesty, humility, and agreement with God. I choose His belief and His perspective of my circumstances instead of fear. I trust Him, as He has proven Himself honest and faithful over and over again. No matter what it may look like on the surface around me, I know He sees the whole picture and is leading me perfectly. This brings joy and peace!Today, I'm choosing again: honesty, humility, and agreement with God. #emptynest #empowerednester Click To Tweet
Whether your emotions have just erupted, or you’re in the calm in-between, take a minute and let the Holy Spirit speak. Give Him a chance to show you what’s hidden and give you the key to step into your freedom. It’s time. Conquer your fear and move forward in the hope only God brings.